Individuals or couples who are working with low desire will meet with their couples or sex therapist to discuss the biological, psychological, or social factors that might contribute to their low sex drive. This includes going over a sexual history, relationship history, and what was learned about sex at an early age.
Your therapist will provide some psychoeducation about humans sexual response in addition to helping you gain some insight as to why your sex drive might be lower.
Then they will help give you some tools to works towards increasing your drive as you become more comfortable with yourself and your sexuality.
The world of desire shows up differently for men and woman and can fluctuate with gender. When we work with couples or individuals who want to feel more desire or have more sex, there is a lot more to it than just doing it a few times more a week.
Desire can be spontaneous or responsive to relationship, environmental, and biological factors. If our relationships are not going well, and we don't feel connected to our partners, it's likely that your desire for sex will decrease.
There are always contradictions to this, like if you discover that your partner has cheated. In that case desire might increase for a short period. But, most of the time our desire and our sense of feeling close are connected and they play off of one another.
Some other reasons for low desire could be past traumas, not feeling sexual, asexuality, and more.
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