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Read it if you want guidance on how anyone can utilize his or her own peak encounters and fantasies as powerful tools of self-discovery

by Jack Morin, PhD

The Erotic Mind

Read it if you want to know how your brain works

by Lisa Feldman Barrett

7 and a half lessons about the Brain

Read it if you want a "fresh look at infidelity."

by Esther Perel

The State Of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity

"The new science of adult attachment."
Read it if you want to learn about your attachment style, and how to find and keep love.

by Levine, Amir; Heller, Rachel

Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment

"A masterclass in the science of sex."
Read this if you struggle with low sexual desire or if you suffer from a desire discrepancy in your relationship.

by Emily Nagoski, Phd

Come As You Are

read these if you're struggling with your sex life or relationship

Jennifer's Recs

Read this book if you want to find healthy ways to have conversations as caregivers to discuss sex, bodies, and feelings with children.

by Cory Silverberg

Sex is a Funny Word: A Book about Bodies, Feelings, and YOU

Read this to dispel the myths around weight and find the factual information to fight against anti-fat bias.

by Aubrey Gordon

You Just Need to Lose Weight and 19 Other Myths about Fat People

Read it if you want to explore and understand the pleasure gap and find ways to have meaningful and orgasmic sex.

by Laurie Mintz

Becoming Cliterate: Why Orgasm Equality Matters

Read this for first-hand accounts on how to successfully navigate polyamorous relationships.

by Franklin Veaux and Eve Rickert 

More Than Two: The Practical Guide to Ethical Polyamory

Read this if you want to better understand how women experience burnout and effective strategies for managing stress. 

by Emily Nagoski and Amelia Nagoski

Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle

check out jane's recommendations for examining our bodies, pleasure, and relationships

Jane's Recs

Read it if you want to learn about effective ways to build a lasting relationship.

by Sue Johnson

Hold Me Tight

Read it if you want to explore healing your attachment in the context of multiple relationships.

by Jessica Fern

Polyscure: Attachment, Trauma, and Consensual Nonmonagamy

Read it if you want practical solutions to maintaining a healthy sex life.

by Barry McCarthy

Sex Made Simple

Read it if you want a practical guide and workbook to making a lost-lasting marriage.

by John Gottman and Nan Silver

The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work

Read this if you want to better understand depression and the unique ways men struggle with.

by Terrence Real

I Don't Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression

Check out lauren's recommendations for healing your relationship and sex life

Lauren's Recs

Read it if you want to understand how ADHD affects our lives and practical ways to navigate it in our lives.

by Tamara Rosier, PhD

Your Brain's Not Broken: Strategies for Navigating Your Emotions and Life with ADHD

Read it if you want to know firsthand accounts of people with disabilities and how it affects are everyday lives.

by Alice Wong

Disability Visability: First-Person Stories from the Twenty-First Century

Read it if you want learn about one man's experiences and a mindset that led him through the darkest of times.

by Viktor E. Frankl

Man's Search for Meaning

Read it if you want to know the lived experience of a gender queer person.

by Maia Kobabe

Gender Queer: A Memoir

Read this if you want to challenge old conceptions of addiction and find more robust ways of understanding it.

by Maia Szalavitz

Unbroken Brain: A Revolutionary New Way of Understanding Addiction

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Madison's Recs

 This book is highly influential in how I ground my relationship with clients. It shows ways to work collaboratively with clients as a conduit, rather than as a authority figure. It emphasizes affirming and working through the strength in a client's identity, while arefully considering the oppression they face and how seeking justice can be a pathway to healing.

by Lillian Comas-Diaz, PhD and Edil Torres Rivera, PhD

Liberation Psychology: Theory, Method, Practice, and Social Justice

Understanding trauma is often fundamental to the therapy work I do, and this book provides a thorough understanding of what trauma is and how it impacts us. 

by Bessel van der Kolk, MD

The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma

This book helps the reader listens to the wisdom of our natural world, and reexamine our relationship to nature, each other, and our existence.

by Robin Wall Kimmerer

Braiding Sweetgrass

An excellent read to understand the harm of fatphobia, and relearn how to see, discuss, and love our bodies. 

by Aubrey Gordon

What We Don't Talk About When We Talk About Fat

This book beautifully takes apart the marginalizing concept of the "abnormal" mind and refocuses the reader on honoring and recognizing how different minds can work.

by Jenara Nerenberg

Divergent Mind: Thriving in a World That Wasn't Designed for You

Check out Brandon's recommendations for insight on the interconnectivity of our body, mind, and culture

Brandon's Recs

Read it if you want to learn about asexuality and how it fits into our lives and culture.

by Angela Chen

Ace: What Asexuality Reveals About Desire, Society, and the Meaning of Sex

Read it if you strive for a life with pleasure beyond oppression.

by adrienne maree brown

Pleasure Activism: The Politics of Feeling Good

Read it if you want a tool to help you learn to navigate communicating desire in your sex life.

by Princess Kali

The Yes, No, Maybe Workbook: Get What You Want Out of Sex & Kink

Read this if you want to understand the unbelievable ways trauma can impact us and the power of connection that it takes to heal.

by Bruce D. Perry and Maia Szalavitz

The Boy Who Was Raised As a Dog

Read this if you want to explore a revolutionary look at love and a critique of a society that denies it to us.

by bell hooks

All About Love

Check out Del's recommendations for books that show the healing power of love.

Del's Recs

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