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Read it if you want guidance on how anyone can utilize his or her own peak encounters and fantasies as powerful tools of self-discovery
by Jack Morin, PhD
The Erotic Mind
Read it if you want to know how your brain works
by Lisa Feldman Barrett
7 and a half lessons about the Brain
Read it if you want a "fresh look at infidelity."
by Esther Perel
The State Of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity
"The new science of adult attachment."
Read it if you want to learn about your attachment style, and how to find and keep love.
by Levine, Amir; Heller, Rachel
Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment
"A masterclass in the science of sex."
Read this if you struggle with low sexual desire or if you suffer from a desire discrepancy in your relationship.
by Emily Nagoski, Phd
Come As You Are
read these if you're struggling with your sex life or relationship
Jennifer's Recs
Read this book if you want to find healthy ways to have conversations as caregivers to discuss sex, bodies, and feelings with children.
by Cory Silverberg
Sex is a Funny Word: A Book about Bodies, Feelings, and YOU
Read this to dispel the myths around weight and find the factual information to fight against anti-fat bias.
by Aubrey Gordon
You Just Need to Lose Weight and 19 Other Myths about Fat People
Read it if you want to explore and understand the pleasure gap and find ways to have meaningful and orgasmic sex.
by Laurie Mintz
Becoming Cliterate: Why Orgasm Equality Matters
Read this for first-hand accounts on how to successfully navigate polyamorous relationships.
by Franklin Veaux and Eve Rickert
More Than Two: The Practical Guide to Ethical Polyamory
Read this if you want to better understand how women experience burnout and effective strategies for managing stress.
by Emily Nagoski and Amelia Nagoski
Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle
check out jane's recommendations for examining our bodies, pleasure, and relationships
Jane's Recs
Read it if you want to learn about effective ways to build a lasting relationship.
by Sue Johnson
Hold Me Tight
Read it if you want to explore healing your attachment in the context of multiple relationships.
by Jessica Fern
Polyscure: Attachment, Trauma, and Consensual Nonmonagamy
Read it if you want practical solutions to maintaining a healthy sex life.
by Barry McCarthy
Sex Made Simple
Read it if you want a practical guide and workbook to making a lost-lasting marriage.
by John Gottman and Nan Silver
The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work
Read this if you want to better understand depression and the unique ways men struggle with.
by Terrence Real
I Don't Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression
Check out lauren's recommendations for healing your relationship and sex life
Lauren's Recs
Read it if you want to understand how ADHD affects our lives and practical ways to navigate it in our lives.
by Tamara Rosier, PhD
Your Brain's Not Broken: Strategies for Navigating Your Emotions and Life with ADHD
Read it if you want to know firsthand accounts of people with disabilities and how it affects are everyday lives.
by Alice Wong
Disability Visability: First-Person Stories from the Twenty-First Century
Read it if you want learn about one man's experiences and a mindset that led him through the darkest of times.
by Viktor E. Frankl
Man's Search for Meaning
Read it if you want to know the lived experience of a gender queer person.
by Maia Kobabe
Gender Queer: A Memoir
Read this if you want to challenge old conceptions of addiction and find more robust ways of understanding it.
by Maia Szalavitz
Unbroken Brain: A Revolutionary New Way of Understanding Addiction
Check out madison's recommendations for firsthand accounts of people who will change your life
Madison's Recs
This book is highly influential in how I ground my relationship with clients. It shows ways to work collaboratively with clients as a conduit, rather than as a authority figure. It emphasizes affirming and working through the strength in a client's identity, while arefully considering the oppression they face and how seeking justice can be a pathway to healing.
by Lillian Comas-Diaz, PhD and Edil Torres Rivera, PhD
Liberation Psychology: Theory, Method, Practice, and Social Justice
Understanding trauma is often fundamental to the therapy work I do, and this book provides a thorough understanding of what trauma is and how it impacts us.
by Bessel van der Kolk, MD
The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma
This book helps the reader listens to the wisdom of our natural world, and reexamine our relationship to nature, each other, and our existence.
by Robin Wall Kimmerer
Braiding Sweetgrass
An excellent read to understand the harm of fatphobia, and relearn how to see, discuss, and love our bodies.
by Aubrey Gordon
What We Don't Talk About When We Talk About Fat
This book beautifully takes apart the marginalizing concept of the "abnormal" mind and refocuses the reader on honoring and recognizing how different minds can work.
by Jenara Nerenberg
Divergent Mind: Thriving in a World That Wasn't Designed for You
Check out Brandon's recommendations for insight on the interconnectivity of our body, mind, and culture
Brandon's Recs
Read it if you want to learn about asexuality and how it fits into our lives and culture.
by Angela Chen
Ace: What Asexuality Reveals About Desire, Society, and the Meaning of Sex
Read it if you strive for a life with pleasure beyond oppression.
by adrienne maree brown
Pleasure Activism: The Politics of Feeling Good
Read it if you want a tool to help you learn to navigate communicating desire in your sex life.
by Princess Kali
The Yes, No, Maybe Workbook: Get What You Want Out of Sex & Kink
Read this if you want to understand the unbelievable ways trauma can impact us and the power of connection that it takes to heal.
by Bruce D. Perry and Maia Szalavitz
The Boy Who Was Raised As a Dog
Read this if you want to explore a revolutionary look at love and a critique of a society that denies it to us.
by bell hooks
All About Love
Check out Del's recommendations for books that show the healing power of love.
Del's Recs
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