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Therapy can be expensive, often prohibitively so for the people who need it most. It is our goal to provided free or discounted therapy services to our community.

Healing begets healing. The resources listed are ones we believe will have a positive impact on your life. By using the links below, you are not just taking the steps to heal yourself, but give someone else the chance who might not have one.

Listed below are some of our therapists' favorite books and resources. By clicking on the books below and purchasing them through our affiliate link, a portion of the proceeds will go to help funding someone's therapy costs who needs it.

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Read it if you want guidance on how anyone can utilize his or her own peak encounters and fantasies as powerful tools of self-discovery

by Jack Morin, PhD

The Erotic Mind

Read it if you struggle with differentiation and "score keeping."

by David Snarch, PhD

Passionate Marriage

Read it if you want a "fresh look at infidelity."

by Esther Perel

The State Of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity

"The new science of adult attachment."
Read it if you want to learn about your attachment style, and how to find and keep love.

by Levine, Amir; Heller, Rachel

Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment

"A masterclass in the science of sex."
Read this if you struggle with low sexual desire or if you suffer from a desire discrepancy in your relationship.

by Emily Nagoski, Phd

Come As You Are

read these if you're struggling with your sex life or relationship

Jennifer's Recs

Read it if you want to learn about effective ways to build a lasting relationship.

by Sue Johnson

Hold Me Tight

Read it if you want to explore healing your attachment in the context of multiple relationships.

by Jessica Fern

Polyscure: Attachment, Trauma, and Consensual Nonmonagamy

Read it if you want practical solutions to maintaining a healthy sex life.

by Barry McCarthy

Sex Made Simple

Read it if you want a practical guide and workbook to making a lost-lasting marriage.

by John Gottman and Nan Silver

The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work

Read this if you want to better understand depression and the unique ways men struggle with.

by Terrence Real

I Don't Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression

Check out lauren's recommendations for healing your relationship and sex life

Lauren's Recs

Read it if you want to understand how ADHD affects our lives and practical ways to navigate it in our lives.

by Tamara Rosier, PhD

Your Brain's Not Broken: Strategies for Navigating Your Emotions and Life with ADHD

Read it if you want to know firsthand accounts of people with disabilities and how it affects are everyday lives.

by Alice Wong

Disability Visability: First-Person Stories from the Twenty-First Century

Read it if you want learn about one man's experiences and a mindset that led him through the darkest of times.

by Viktor E. Frankl

Man's Search for Meaning

Read it if you want to know the lived experience of a gender queer person.

by Maia Kobabe

Gender Queer: A Memoir

Read this if you want to challenge old conceptions of addiction and find more robust ways of understanding it.

by Maia Szalavitz

Unbroken Brain: A Revolutionary New Way of Understanding Addiction

Check out madison's recommendations for firsthand accounts of people who will change your life

Madison's Recs

Read it if you want to heal the effects of neglect and learn to connect with the world around them.

by Jonice Webb and Christine Musello

Running on Empty: Overcome Your Childhood Emotional Neglect

Read it if you want to understand the impact of negative childhood experiences on our lives.

by Nadine Burke Harris, MD

The Deepest Well: Healing the Long-Term Effects of Childhood Trauma and Adversity

Read it if you want to explore and understand ways in which are kept from embracing their emotional selves.

by bell hooks

The Will to Change: Men, Masculinity, and Love

Read it if you want to learn how to navigate parenting difficulties and learn to navigate family arguments.

by Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish

How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk

Read this if you want help better navigating childhood trauma that is impacting your adult self.

by Pete Walker

Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving

Check out Emily's recommendations for healing related to children and our own inner child

Emily's Recs

 This book is highly influential in how I ground my relationship with clients. It shows ways to work collaboratively with clients as a conduit, rather than as a authority figure. It emphasizes affirming and working through the strength in a client's identity, while arefully considering the oppression they face and how seeking justice can be a pathway to healing.

by Lillian Comas-Diaz, PhD and Edil Torres Rivera, PhD

Liberation Psychology: Theory, Method, Practice, and Social Justice

Understanding trauma is often fundamental to the therapy work I do, and this book provides a thorough understanding of what trauma is and how it impacts us. 

by Bessel van der Kolk, MD

The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma

This book helps the reader listens to the wisdom of our natural world, and reexamine our relationship to nature, each other, and our existence.

by Robin Wall Kimmerer

Braiding Sweetgrass

An excellent read to understand the harm of fatphobia, and relearn how to see, discuss, and love our bodies. 

by Aubrey Gordon

What We Don't Talk About When We Talk About Fat

This book beautifully takes apart the marginalizing concept of the "abnormal" mind and refocuses the reader on honoring and recognizing how different minds can work.

by Jenara Nerenberg

Divergent Mind: Thriving in a World That Wasn't Designed for You

Check out Brandon's recommendations for insight on the interconnectivity of our body, mind, and culture

Brandon's Recs

Read it if you want to learn about asexuality and how it fits into our lives and culture.

by Angela Chen

Ace: What Asexuality Reveals About Desire, Society, and the Meaning of Sex

Read it if you strive for a life with pleasure beyond oppression.

by adrienne maree brown

Pleasure Activism: The Politics of Feeling Good

Read it if you want a tool to help you learn to navigate communicating desire in your sex life.

by Princess Kali

The Yes, No, Maybe Workbook: Get What You Want Out of Sex & Kink

Read this if you want to understand the unbelievable ways trauma can impact us and the power of connection that it takes to heal.

by Bruce D. Perry and Maia Szalavitz

The Boy Who Was Raised As a Dog

Read this if you want to explore a revolutionary look at love and a critique of a society that denies it to us.

by bell hooks

All About Love

Check out Del's recommendations for books that show the healing power of love.

Del's Recs

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