Red Light, Green Light: A fun way to open up conversation about sex with your partner
Do you need a couples game way to talk about sex with your partner(s)? This game will easily get you communicating about sexy things that you’ve been too afraid to talk about!
6/24/2017
By Jennifer Seip, LMFT
Do you need a couples game way to talk about sex with your partner(s)? This game will easily get you communicating about sexy things that you’ve been too afraid to talk about!
Couples Game: Red light, Green Light Instructions:
You will need:
- paper
- writing utensil
Rules:
*DON’T TELL YOUR PARTNER WHAT YOU WROTE UNTIL THE VERY END!
1.) Divide the paper into 3 columns. Title each column separately, Red Light, Green Light, Yellow Light.
2.) Think of all the things that you have done sexually and that you’ve enjoyed. These could be anything from french kissing, to intercourse, to role-playing a specific scenario. Write everything you can think of in the green column.
3.) Think of all the sexual things that you know you would not enjoy. For some, its adding another partner to intercourse, for others its oral sex. Whatever you know you would not want to try, put that in the red column.
4.) Think of all the sexual things that maybe you’ve done only once or twice or perhaps haven’t done it all but you would like to try it. Put those in the yellow column.
5.) When you and your partner are finished, take turns telling each other what’s on your list. Take your time and make each idem into a discussion. Talk about why it is on the list and where. Use this to generate further discussion about your sex life.
*Hint: If you have trouble coming up with ideas for this couples game, here is a fun list you can refer to. If those are not enough, try this list.
Here is an example of what your list might look like.
|
Green |
Red |
Yellow
|
| Kissing with tongue
Fellatio Back Massages Hand Holding Penetrative Intercourse (penis/vagina) Dress-Up Lingerie Vibrator During Sex Masturbation Shower Sex |
Cutting
Adding another person Watching partner masturbate Sex in Public Tantric Sex |
Dripping Wax
Eating Role-Play Anal Watching Porn together Different Positions Different Toys |
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