I’ve been thinking a lot about self doubt and vulnerability lately. As counselors we are taught that self disclosure is good, only when it aids in the clients growth, (of course we can’t disclose too much because it would take away from our ability to analyze things fairly.) With some people it comes easier and others not so much. I give so much credit to the people who choose to come and see me, be vulnerable and talk about what scares them. So today I’ve decided to be vulnerable with you and let you know what I’m afraid of. Practice what you preach right? Here it goes!
Self doubt scares me… wow that was hard to write.
When I first started my therapy practice four years ago I was eager and hopeful. I was given the amazing opportunity to build my own business while simultaneously cautioning myself for failure. Even though I was nervous, I always knew that I wanted to become a relationship therapist. It just fit so well for me. Like I was meant to be the catalyst for change in other people’s lives. So I stormed into building my practice and began growing it little by little. First I signed myself up to be on a referral network. A year or so later, launched my website, and currently am finding my voice by blogging.
My self doubt didn’t start right away, but it has been a lingering feeling throughout my life. I want to make a point that this isn’t something that just began with me as a practitioner, but I’ve been unsure of my abilities since I was in elementary school. Comparing myself to others’ success is something I know a great deal about. Through the years I have met many amazing and successful people. Some of which I silently compare myself to. But you know what I’ve learned? They are not me and I’m not them. I am so proud of all that I have been able to achieve thus far. After all of the blood, sweat, and tears, I can proudly acknowledge that I am still the catalyst for change in other people’s lives.
I’m writing this because I know that I’m not the only one who suffers with self doubt. If you’re reading this post it’s probably because in some way it fits with you too. You’re not alone. It’s important to know that as humans we all have insecurities. The best way to cope with this is to find someone who will listen, and who will hear your voice. Everyone deserves to have their fears heard.
No matter how good you are at something, there will always be someone better and someone worse. Even if you are the best, would you even know it or would self doubt get in the way? Don’t put yourself down and sit in fear. Instead, acknowledge your fear and force it to let you grow. Know that there are people around you who will help, you just have to ask ❤