Anxious attachment can be painful–fear of rejection and loss, constant worry about your partner’s emotions, and low self-esteem. However, while attachment is about our relationships, it is absolutely possible to learn how to self-soothe anxious attachment. Read on for tips from a therapist.   What is anxious attachment? Anxious attachment is one of four attachment […]

As a relationship therapist, I often find my clients feel a sense of responsibility for their partner, or family members’ feelings.  My clients feel entangled in the emotions of their loved ones which causes them to develop people pleaser tendencies. They don’t know how to self validate and they try to anticipate, adjust or control their […]

How To Cope With Your Anxiety These last few years, Covid-19 has taken it’s toll on all of us. We have been trapped in our homes, shielded our faces behind masks, and distanced from our loved ones. We have felt a plethora of emotions including fear and loneliness. It’s not a secret that now more […]

In relationships, it’s normal for each person to have their own strengths and weaknesses. When you find the right partner, you’ll complement each other so you both grow as better people. However, there is a fine line you can cross where your relationship goes from dependent to codependent. If this happens, it might be unhealthy […]

As a relational therapist, I often come across variations of this mind reading statement when working with couples,  “If they really loved me, they would just know what I need.” This assumption usually comes to light when I’m exploring frustrations that exist within a relationship. They are due to unmet needs. Furthermore, when I start […]

Studies show that 40 to 50 percent of marriages end in divorce. If you’re looking at relationships in general, the breakup rate is much higher. In some cases, the people in the relationship shouldn’t be together, and breaking up is a good thing. However, there are tons of couples that could be truly happy and content if […]

By: Jennifer Seip If you have ever been to couples therapy, then you have probably heard of The Five Love Languages. Since being published, Gary Chapman has sold over 13 million copies. But what are they in the first place? How do you find out what your language is? Lastly, why are they so important? […]

Do you struggle with people-pleasing? Here are three tips to stop being a people-pleaser. August 23, 2020 By Jennifer Seip

Yesterday, my husband and I were talking and the topic of insecurity came up. More specifically, insecure attachment. Quickly into our conversation we realized that we had two different definitions of what it means to feel insecure in a relationship. So today I think it would be nice to break down what attachment is in […]

Have you ever experienced the fight, flight, or freeze response? Our brain’s have a great way of activating a self protection protocol during periods of high stress. If we perceive the threat to be something we are capable of overcoming, we fight. If we think we can outrun it, we fly, and if neither of […]