When I notice the content of what much of our world suggests for self care, we don’t usually discuss either the political self or the possible therapeutic benefits of political action. These topics often include exercise, nutrition, unplugging from technology, engaging in spirituality, and spending time with loved ones. Often, self-care can involve disengaging from […]

The Political Self: The Possible Therapeutic Benefits of Political Action

Anxious attachment can be painful–fear of rejection and loss, constant worry about your partner’s emotions, and low self-esteem. However, while attachment is about our relationships, it is absolutely possible to learn how to self-soothe anxious attachment. Read on for tips from a therapist.   What is anxious attachment? Anxious attachment is one of four attachment […]

How To Self-Soothe and Heal Anxious Attachment

Is relational happiness reality minus expectations? Have you ever watched that seen from the the movie, 500 Days Of Summer, where Joseph Gordon Levitt, can’t wait to meet his ex, Zoey Deschanel at a party she’s hosting? He thinks that the meeting will go one way; they will immediately reconnect and realize that they are […]

Is Relational Happiness Reality Minus Expectations?

As a clinical social worker and therapist, I spend a lot of time speaking with individuals and couples teaching them how to feel their feelings. They are a critical piece of how we make positive change and move through life’s challenges. Emotions also offer us critical information about our needs, boundaries, relationships, and the world […]

This 3-Step Process Will Help You Feel Your Feelings

This time of year can be stressful for so many of us. We are tested on knowing what our boundaries are and how to stay true to our needs. Some of us are not partnered and that’s okay; even though as humans living in a modern society, we are bombarded with images and messages which […]

How To Get Through The Holidays Single

As a relationship therapist, I often find my clients feel a sense of responsibility for their partner, or family members’ feelings.  My clients feel entangled in the emotions of their loved ones which causes them to develop people pleaser tendencies. They don’t know how to self validate and they try to anticipate, adjust or control their […]

How to Self Validate and Stop Being A People Pleaser

How To Cope With Your Anxiety These last few years, Covid-19 has taken it’s toll on all of us. We have been trapped in our homes, shielded our faces behind masks, and distanced from our loved ones. We have felt a plethora of emotions including fear and loneliness. It’s not a secret that now more […]

How To Cope With Your Anxiety

By: Brynne Kessler, MFT John Gottman’s research reflects: couples who stay together the longest are those who allow each other to be influenced by another. In other words, it is important to remain open to your partner’s perspective. As a couple’s therapist, I often witness couples get stuck in the communication challenge of needing to be […]

Do You Need To Be Right? Why fixating on right and wrong could hurt your relationship

By Kirsten Lyons, LSW Finding ways to care for ourselves in times of stress is critical to support our mental health. But sometimes when we are overwhelmed it can be difficult to identify what would help us feel better. That’s why I often recommend my clients create a self-care playbook to take some of the […]

Feeling low? Here’s How To Develop A Self Care Playbook

Are you or your partner considering opening up your relationship? Even though open relationships aren’t often talked about, they are becoming more popular. Today, somewhere between 4% and 9% of adults in the US are non-monogamous, and 1 in 5 Americans say they’ve experienced an open partnership. Keep reading to get a better understanding of how non-monogamy works, […]

Considering Opening Up Your Relationship? Here’s What You Should Know

How often do you and your partner have sex? A couple’s sex life can be an important indicator of how healthy their relationship is. So if you or your partner are struggling with low desire or libido, it could be stemming from unrelated factors that you don’t even know about. Keep reading our helpful guide […]

What Can Couples Do When Their Sex Drives Don’t Match?

Have you ever heard of emotional intelligence? Just like everything in life, your relationships take skill and knowledge to work. If you’re not well-equipped, you can quickly run into difficulties and maintaining healthy relationships will be tough! One of the most important skills to learn and understand is emotional intelligence. For relationships, from romantic connections […]

Emotional Intelligence and How It Can Help Your Relationships