How do you know if you should leave your long term relationship? This post is going to be 2 parts, but very simple. On occasion I am asked the question, “How do I know if I should leave?” When you read other posts on this subject, you’ll find lot’s of different opinions about what you […]

Separation

How To Know When You Should Leave A Long-Term Relationship

If you prefer watching instead of reading, click here! I’m sure you’ve heard this story before. You and your partner are trying to make a decision. For example, let’s say you’re planning a vacation. You want to go to a nice relaxing beach resort and they want to go hiking in the Rocky Mountains. Because […]

Communication

The Art Of Compromise

This morning I woke up and did not want to get out of bed. In fact, I wanted to stay in bed so bad that I got up, walked my dog, and then got back under the covers right away. This happens to me sometimes, but it doesn’t always involve getting back in bed. Sometimes […]

Anxiety

3 Things You Can Be Doing Right Now To Beat Motivation-less Moments

One of the most common issues people bring to our sessions is not knowing how to get through their feelings. We therapists call this processing.  For many of us actually feeling our feelings is not something we have much experience with. Sadness, anger, fear, grief, can be confusing emotions that have the capability of completely […]

Trauma

5 Healthy Ways You Can Process Your Feelings

What do you think of when you hear the word cheat, or affair? Do you think of an adulterer who committed a horrible crime? Or someone who only considers themselves, and has no concern about who they are hurting? Possibly both? Click here to watch my video: 4 Reasons Why People In Happy Relationships Cheat […]

Affairs

4 Reasons Why People In Happy Relationships Cheat

Have you ever heard the term, “Growth Mindset?” Many people believe that the key to success is hidden in adopting this framework. Growth Mindset is the belief that people’s most basic abilities can be developed through dedication and hard work. Our brains are adaptable and changeable but only if we consistently challenge ourselves for growth. […]

Anxiety

The Power Of Having A Growth Mindset

Have you ever heard someone refer to humans as left brain dominant? Do you even know what that means? Well today I’m going to tell you exactly what that means and how to get more out of your right brain. Click here to watch my You Tube video about the left and right brain!   What […]

Trauma

How Insight About The Left & Right Brain Can Lead You To Euphoria

I’m going to start today’s tip with an example. Let’s say a couple walks into my office. We’ll call them John and Judy. Right away John and Judy begin talking about a small disagreement they had last week. According to Judy, when she asked her husband if he had a good time at her mothers […]

Communication

Mind Reading: The Good, The Bad, & The UGLY

I am definitely a believer in a bit of self disclosure. Some therapists are not, but if you haven’t already discovered from watching my videos and reading my blog posts, I am. Lately I’ve been a bit out of sorts, even a little down. This could be for a million reasons, some of which I […]

Attachment

Self Compassion’s Role in Love and Relationships

Have you ever experienced the fight, flight, or freeze response? Our brain’s have a great way of activating a self protection protocol during periods of high stress. If we perceive the threat to be something we are capable of overcoming, we fight. If we think we can outrun it, we fly, and if neither of […]

Trauma

Fight, Flight, or Freeze | Why is this happening and what you can do about it!

Today I am going to tell you about one thing. This one thing is so huge, that if you do it once a week, every week, your relationship will be amazing. Don’t you want the best relationship? I know it sounds simple, but aren’t the simplest things usually the hardest? It’s not go on a […]

Open Relationships

One Thing You Should Be Doing Every Week For a Better Relationship

I know what you’re thinking, this post was made for you! We all have that one person, (or two or three) in our lives who we consider to be TOXIC! But what should you do about them? Usually a toxic person isn’t just someone on the street who we can ignore easily. They are often, […]

Single

How To Deal With TOXIC Relationships!