As a relational therapist, I often come across variations of this mind reading statement when working with couples,  “If they really loved me, they would just know what I need.” This assumption usually comes to light when I’m exploring frustrations that exist within a relationship. They are due to unmet needs. Furthermore, when I start […]

Studies show that 40 to 50 percent of marriages end in divorce. If you’re looking at relationships in general, the breakup rate is much higher. In some cases, the people in the relationship shouldn’t be together, and breaking up is a good thing. However, there are tons of couples that could be truly happy and content if […]

How to make marriage work and stop fighting By: Jennifer Seip, LMFT, MA 1/14/21   It is hard to make marriage work. You spend years waking up to the same person every day. You see them at their best and at their worst. Small annoyances that you thought you could let go, slowly start to […]

By: Jennifer Seip If you have ever been to couples therapy, then you have probably heard of The Five Love Languages. Since being published, Gary Chapman has sold over 13 million copies. But what are they in the first place? How do you find out what your language is? Lastly, why are they so important? […]

Do you struggle with people-pleasing? Here are three tips to stop being a people-pleaser. August 23, 2020 By Jennifer Seip

By: Jennifer Seip, LMFT   Do you know when it’s okay to keep something hidden from your partner?  Many believe that in a romantic relationship, there shouldn’t be anything hidden. But how close is too close? When should you disclose information and when should it be kept to yourself? In this article, I am referring […]

By: Jennifer Seip, LMFT, MA   click here for my video! Grief is sad. Grief is scary. Furthermore, grief is confusing. If you’ve experienced grief yourself,  for someone you once knew, a family member, a friend, a lost loved one, or you’ve experienced it in the form of a break up or move, the you […]

If you prefer watching instead of reading, click here! I’m sure you’ve heard this story before. You and your partner are trying to make a decision. For example, let’s say you’re planning a vacation. You want to go to a nice relaxing beach resort and they want to go hiking in the Rocky Mountains. Because […]

Learn why mind reading can both help and harm your relationship Mindreading: The Good and Bad 12/28/18 By: Jennifer Seip, LMFT   Let’s say a couple walks into my office. We’ll call them John and Judy. Right away John and Judy begin talking about a small disagreement they had last week. According to Judy, when […]

Do this once a week for a better relationship 12/7/2018 By: Jennifer Seip, LMFT, MA Dear friends, Today I am going to tell you about one thing. This one thing is so huge, that if you do it once a week, every week, your relationship will be greatly improved. I know it sounds simple, but aren’t […]

What you should know before you move in with your partner 10/24/18 By: Jennifer Seip, LMFT, MA   Hey everyone! I’m really excited to share with you that I am going to start doing video’s (yay!) It’s really important to me that you have a place to go and learn correct information about all things […]

Dr. John Gottman, the founder of The Gottman Institute in Seattle, has proven that there are four communication styles which are extremely destructive to relationships. These patterns of interaction are Criticism, Defensiveness, Stonewalling, and Contempt. If these styles persist in partnerships, it could mean divorce or separation. Knowing what they are and being able to […]